We all have our perspective of family, our own idea of what it looks like. For me, when I was growing up, I had a really big family scattered across the US. With my dad being in the military what I considered family wasn’t always close by. We spent quite a bit of money driving and sometimes flying to visit family in the summer. At that stage in my life, family was not only immediate family but aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents. At that stage in my life my family was pretty big.
As I got into my mid to late teens, my perspective of family started to change. Not that I started to remove people, more like add people. My friends became part of what I viewed as family. Some of them even seemed closer than my “biological family”. I think this is a natural thing and happens to just about everyone.
Where the problem came for me was when I didn’t want the correction, accountability or guidance that comes with a healthy family. With that I began to distance myself from those that wanted to keep me safe and out of trouble. I started to gravitate to people that were less likely to try and stop me from being destructive, even better if they joined me in my rebellion.
My view of family began to morph into something completely different than when I was younger. In my mind, anyone that didn’t accept me for me, which was my bad habits and a lot of times criminal behavior, was not family. I actually rationalized with “disowning” them and making a lot of them my enemies. At that stage in my life, I was running fast and hard, if you weren’t running with me I had no use for you. If you tried to stop me or get me to change course, you then became my enemy. My mom, dad, brother and sister weren’t even safe from it. I became bitter and angry at the very ones that were try to help me, trying to keep me from doing the things I shouldn’t. Today I have a different perspective on family but for some that I have hurt it is still a long road to mending the relationship.
In Matthew 12:47-50, Jesus gives us a little insight on family. He wasn’t saying that Mary wasn’t His mother. More like He was extending the perception of family and giving a definition. He was describing the “adopted family” in Christ, in Him. When we accept Christ as our Lord and Savior our family grows instantly. We become part of a larger family, the family of God. With that comes your biological family and also any one on this planet that has accepted Christ. They become your spiritual brothers, sisters, mothers and father’s. It’s just the way the family of God works. These are the ones that we allow to guide us, shape us and mold us. These are the ones that we follow as they follow Christ. It is how we grow as followers of Jesus. Like Paul and Timothy as a good example.
I don’t expect everyone to understand. I wouldn’t have when I was in my flesh and rebellion. One thing I do know is I am thankful not only for my salvation found only in Jesus, but also for the Godly men and women He has put in my life to help guide me and show me the way to Him.
Family is so much more than blood and DNA. Family is a bond that is built over time. My question to you is, how healthy is your family? You will never find one more healthy than the family of God. This family can one be joined through the acceptance of Jesus, His death, His burial and His Resurrection. I pray that if you haven’t become a part of our family that today you make that decision. If you need to be reconciled back to God its as simple as 1 John 1:9. If your not sure, need help or guidance then we are always here. Feel free to contact us.
I hope everyone has an amazing day! Allow Jesus to live through you, you may be the only time they see Him.
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